What are the unwritten rules of love

Record the unwritten laws of love in writing

Record the unwritten laws of love in writing

11/08/2013 at 1:20 am
This thread is an attempt to put together a collection of the unwritten laws of human mating behavior.

Of course, this is an almost impossible endeavor.

please try to formulate the rules concisely and briefly so that we can collect them at the end. Of course, there will always be exceptions to the rule in such complex and culturally undermined behavior as human mating behavior. Discussion is of course welcome.

E.g.:
-A male has to smile when looking for a female's gaze and not avert his gaze when he meets hers.

-the female also establishes eye contact and returns the smile, the male must seek the conversation without waiting too long.

-The distance that a female perceives to be too close (exact values ​​depend on the region and are subject to a south-west gradient) may only be overcome slowly and testing in the first approach phase.

The male should initiate the first physical contact in a playful way and limit himself to the hands.

-The male is allowed to fool around in the first conversations and to leave the female in the uncertain, provided that she does so in a playful way and not for the purpose of false self-expression.

-The male should hold back in describing his own life story. Above all, describing illnesses, relationship problems, injured feelings and erectile dysfunction are topics that should be avoided: P

-a male in conversation with a female should not make other males ill in front of her, especially not if they are allies of the male.

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11/08/2013 at 1:30 am
The female can and / or is allowed to wear the title "bed mattress" with full pride by frequently changing partners. In males, this behavior is justified with "mistake in the female"


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11/08/2013 at 1:39 am
@RobbyRobbe
lol

ok why not actually I rephrase it a bit and would maybe rephrase it too, since males usually do not reject reproduction with more active females but only evaluate it differently

-a male who has often changing sex partners increases his market value more than a female who has often changing sex partners. (Presumably because in humans it is more common for the male to leave the female with the children than the other way around, as the latter invest more in the young due to the long pregnancy and therefore loyal ones were more strongly selected)


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11/08/2013 at 2:54 am
@ Dr Thrax
uh thank you very interesting

i will take note of his work on sexual disorders

Of course, things will be a little flatter here, but also a little more pragmatic. Since we are not bound by the scientific method and can also set up very subjective regulations that a scientist cannot allow himself to be


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11/08/2013 at 8:11 am
True love is only between men.




OIK! OIK! OIK!


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11/08/2013 at 8:48 am
During courtship, the male tries to win over the female with gifts. These gifts can be objects (especially shiny things, see magpies) or services such as help with setting up the nest.


Compliments are just as effective, but should not degenerate into exaggerated flattery. Here there is agreement between males and females: Both do not know what the female actually wants.


When they reach sexual maturity, their parents inform young animals about the rules of mating behavior.
Papa ante Portas "Men are - and women too .."



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11/08/2013 at 9:25 am
Both males and females should pay attention to the following from the first time they meet:

- Direct ownership claims including strict demands are undesirable at the beginning of the introductory phase. They lead to the opposite of what is desired.
Later ownership and the strict demands associated with it are subject to negotiation to which both parties must agree on an equal footing.


- A comparison of the potential new partner with an ex is undesirable. This includes both positive comparisons in the sense of "You have more beautiful eyes than my ex" or "You are just as smart as my ex", as well as negative comparisons such as "My ex was able to do this, my ex was more successful in that one , my ex could do this and that much better / more effectively / more tenderly ".
This rule also applies during the existing relationship.


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11/08/2013 at 10:31 am
@ james1983

Rule No. 23

The common neanderthalensis, who is asked how many women he slept with, has under no circumstances to answer "zero" or a number> 2.

Here is the general rule of thumb, formulated mathematically in high quality:

SB = WSB / 2 = <2

Otherwise lying helps. : D


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11/08/2013 at 1:22 pm
@slobber
your second rule should be extended by

Mom instead of ex * g *

Strangely enough, instead of ex, dad is not a dealbraker for all men


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11/08/2013 at 1:31 pm
For years I thought the first and only rule was, "Be honest." But I lost my way again. It's just a game. Do what is best for you. At some point, honesty becomes more important again. But certainly not in the hooking up phase.
I also find it difficult to establish general rules. Everybody has to press different buttons.


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11/08/2013 at 1:33 PM
@praiseway
social behavior is always more complicated than what we learn as children in the family


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11/08/2013 at 1:33 PM
@ james1983
Ultimately, what we learn as children in the family is also social behavior. And I certainly haven't learned about honesty in my family. It's more like the other way around. (To that extent, maybe it is).


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11/08/2013 at 1:35 pm
@ james1983

Social behavior is a process that begins in the family, continues in school or is deepened by the circle of friends.


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11/08/2013 at 1:39 pm
@praiseway
yes, i have also figured out a lot of things because i missed them in my own family

I meant that later on there will be much finer forms of complexity that we seldom become aware of

@ SUPERVISOR1982
absolutely


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11/08/2013 at 1:40 pm
@ james1983
But then the idea of ​​basic rules is wrong in the beginning, isn't it? I mean, it's so pick-up artist-like.


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11/08/2013 at 1:45 PM
Example: In the last few weeks I (presumably) read an article at Bild that iPhone users have an advantage when flirting. I would be impressed by a woman without a smartphone.


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11/08/2013 at 2:18 pm
All laws and rules are no longer valid, as females often act irrationally, which is why males are recommended to continue to use the try & error strategy, as this has proven to be the most successful in a possible mating project.


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11/08/2013 at 2:20 pm
@AcidU
Try & Error is stupid. Since one is trying to crystallize laws that relate to the gender of woman, and not to individuals.


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11/08/2013 at 2:22 pm
@praiseway

The gender "woman" consists of individuals. Any attempt to highlight laws there is doomed to failure from the outset. But you are welcome to keep trying. I just wouldn't waste too much energy on it ;)


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