Should we respect old people

5 ways you can treat the elderly in your life with respect

Last update: April 16, 2018

Our intolerance to aging is a contemporary evil that has gradually spread across the world. Elderly people have gone from being a valued source of wisdom to a group that many people don't know what to do with. When people in our society reach a certain age, they are often faced with rejection, rejection and disdain. Society seems to have lost respect for the elderly.

We idealize youth as the source of all well-being. Even if this is false, many people accept it as true and act accordingly. Strength and mobility are almost fetishes. An elderly person does not fit into this pattern and society does not want to deal with their vulnerability.

“The first forty years of life give us the text; the next thirty provide us with the commentary on it. "

Arthur Schopenhauer

The most fragile people in our world are often pushed aside. This applies to children, the elderly and the sick, among other things. Young adults - healthy, strong, and full of potential - usually expect someone else to take care of the weak. Regardless of whether we are talking about their own children, their parents or relatives, it seems that the healthy and the young have no time for these vulnerable fringe groups.

That is exactly why we want to dedicate this article to the elderly, because they deserve respect. You deserve more than these five forms of respect, but let's start with these.

Don't try to change an older person

In general, trying to change someone shows a lack of respect. How do you know you're right and she's wrong? Only those who believe they are better than the others try to change people. That being said, the concept of “better” or “worse” is extremely relative and dangerous.

No matter who we are talking about, an older person has already played many roles in their life. It has set its own criteria for how to be, whether or not they are the “right” criteria. She has developed her own habits, tastes and customs. Nobody has the right to want to convince them that they should think or act differently. In fact, no matter how hard you try, you probably won't be able to change her mind. If you accept them, you'll make life easier for both of you.

Don't argue with them

Your father or grandfather may be convinced of something that seems absurd to you. His religious and political attitudes can be very different from yours. Older people sometimes try in good faith to convince you that they are right.

Remember that an elderly person carries a lot of baggage, but that's not necessarily a bad thing. At the end of the day, the way you tick is no coincidence. Your mindset is based on your experience and the knowledge you have acquired. It is not a good idea to get into pointless arguments to get your elders to understand your point of view. Have an open, loving and respectful ear for you: you deserve it.

Support them in their interests and hobbies

Often times, older people are shy or afraid to pursue their own interests or hobbies. In today's world, their word is not taken seriously unless they are in a position of power. Her hobby can be reading, gardening, or even exercising. Whatever it is, it would be nice if you showed interest in it. And when you are able to practice that hobby as well, join them. At the dawn of life, a hobby can be a rich source of self-esteem and society.

Accept their physical and cognitive limits without criticism

They say there is one test we should all try. Cover your ears with cotton, smear petroleum jelly over your eyes, and tie two bricks to your legs. Then try to hold out for an hour. This should show us how it feels when you are getting on in years. It may also teach us to be more tolerant of the limitations older people can experience.

If you're walking with an older person, adjust to their pace and don't ask more than they can handle. If she doesn't understand you as you speak, try speaking louder and clearer instead of scolding her for not paying attention. When she complains about her health without being condescending, listen to her and treat them the way you would like to be treated once you reach their age.

Accept their obsessions

Some older people can be very moody and stubborn. They can even be malicious or exhausting. In fact, some of them act like children. And in the midst of this second childhood, they sometimes develop very difficult behaviors.

Keep in mind that there is a reason an older person may act this way. She is going through very big changes and has to face the thought that the end is upon her. Her stubbornness and moods are due to the fact that she tries to compensate for her feelings of vulnerability and fear. So don't give these behaviors any more weight than they deserve.

Parents and grandparents are a source of wisdom, even if they have a few quirks. Listening to them and spending time with them can enrich your heart in surprising ways. Accepting their vulnerability makes you a better person and gives your life greater meaning.

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