Where can I learn social skills

How can it be learned?

How can the soft skills be learned?

In the previous chapter we described some important reasons why an increasing lack of social competence can be perceived in everyday life and also in companies.

The individual is, of course, to blame for this development: Nobody comes with fully trained people social skills to the world. And if there is a lack of time and suitable role models, these skills will not arise on their own.

From an individual perspective, it often seems incomprehensible to the respective person why the cooperation with other people does not work out so well. You have tried very hard and had the best of intentions!

Who his social skills has not yet trained sufficiently, often tries in vain to find his role and task in teamwork. Despite all efforts, the difficulties persist and are often difficult to understand for those affected. And the supervisor often does not know exactly what the problem is and how it is soft skills get systematic training.

Do you have it or you don't?

You either don't have social skills or you don't have them - here, too, it behaves analogously to a language. They were trained differently. In addition, one and the same person is not always equally competent. Under stress (workloads, fears, illnesses etc.) most people are significantly less socially competent than in "good times".

We believe that social skills largely belong to the skills that can be learned or are already learned, and that the genetic disposition only makes this learning easier or more difficult. We also believe that they can still be learned or significantly improved in adulthood.

But we also believe that this is learning and improving for adults no is a quick and absolutely simple matter! A systematic training program over a period of several months appears to be necessary.

If you take a look at the long list of “ingredients” for social skills in the right-hand column of the screen (or below this text on small screens), it will probably immediately become clear why this cannot be the case. Because there is a whole range of skills to improve!

It's like learning a language or a musical instrument: the skillful and complete interplay of many different sub-skills is what ultimately makes the music. If you read a book on the subject or attend individual seminars, you may be able to speak a few new sentences or bring out a few new tones afterwards. But to get good, it takes time, repetition and practice, practice, practice. It is comparable to other learning processes: the best way to learn a language is to travel to a foreign country and contact native speakers; a musical instrument by attending master concerts as well as making music together with advanced or experts.

Real social skills exist Not from some memorized phrases, Not from a few learned tricks - no matter how brilliant they are. At best, these can be used to achieve short-term effects on the counterpart, which then often quickly turn into their opposite (disappointment in the other with the corresponding unpleasant consequences for oneself).

Requirements for learning

The following prerequisites appear to be particularly relevant for learning or for improving one's own social skills:

One should

  • have recognized that it is worth looking into the topic
  • know that a lot of what is still missing can be learned and thus achieved
  • be curious and open to new experiences
  • give yourself a longer perspective for this
  • be ready to do something about it
  • Find a positive learning environment in which the most natural, practice-oriented and sustainable learning possible is possible.

If all of this is given with you, you will likely be richly and, above all, sustainably rewarded. Besides, you don't start from scratch, because many of them soft skills like most people, bring it with you.

All of this is never about becoming a different person than who you actually are. Instead, it's about expanding your own abilities and possibilities as you would for yourself and is good for others.

The soft skills Incidentally, it is not called “soft” because it means that one always has to act softly, timidly or indulgingly. They are called "soft" because they are less tangible and more difficult to measure than, for example, achieved sales figures (hard facts).

Different focuses and target groups

While there are already numerous "tutoring courses" in social pedagogy, which are aimed primarily at young people with the aim of preventing violence, we offer our training programs for people who already have many basic social skills.

Our modular "advanced training" is aimed primarily at managers and employees in other words, to people who are already in the middle of life, but want to improve their soft skills even further, discover and learn additional subtleties and possibilities, but who may still need some "tutoring" in some places. Like in German lessons for native speakers: The basic linguistic skills and an intuitive feeling for the language are already available, but the subtleties, reflective understanding and flexibility can only be achieved through the German subject.

Also for young professionals and job seekers a better understanding and intensive training of social skills is, in many cases, a very useful preparation for the future profession or the intended new job.

We also prepare for the job of an independent social skills trainer.

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Social skills and soft skills for your success