Why do we love our life

Love makes us perfect again. The ancient Greek philosopher Plato founded the idea that we love in order to become perfect. In his work "Symposium" he wrote about an evening party at which Aristophanes, a comedy poet, entertains the guests with the following story: People were once beings with 4 arms, 4 legs and 2 faces. One day they enraged the gods and Zeus cut them in half. Since then, everyone has been missing their other half. Love is the longing to find a soulmate who will make us perfect again, or at least Plato believed that a drunken comedian would say that at a party. Love leads us to have children. Much later, the German philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer claimed that love based on sexual desires was a sensual illusion. He said that we love because our wishes make us believe that someone else will make us happy, but we are fundamentally wrong there. Nature ruses us to procreate, and to unite in our love is perfected with our children. When our sexual desires are satisfied, we are thrown back into our tormenting existence and are only successful if we preserve our kind and continue the cycle of human drudgery. Sounds like someone needs a hug. Love is the escape from our loneliness. According to Nobel Prize winner and British philosopher Bertrand Russell, we love to meet our physical and psychological needs. Humans are made to procreate, but without the intoxication of passionate love, sex is unsatisfactory. Our fears of the cold, cruel world cause us to build a hard shell to protect and isolate ourselves. The joy, intimacy and warmth of love help us to overcome our fears, to escape our lonely bowls and to participate extensively in life. Love enriches our whole being and makes it the best in life. Love is a misleading suffering. Siddhārtha Gautama, who came to be known as the Buddha or the Enlightened One, would likely have made interesting arguments against Russell's theory. Buddha explained that we love because we try to meet our basic needs. Yet our passionate longings are weaknesses and affections, even romantic love, great sources of suffering. Fortunately, Buddha discovered the eight-part path, a kind of guide to extinguishing the fires of desire so that we can achieve nirvana, an enlightening state of peace, clarity, wisdom and compassion. Writer Cao Xueqin pointed out the Buddhist view that romantic love is folly in one of China's greatest classics, "The Dream of the Red Chamber". In a subplot, Jia Rui falls in love with Xi-Feng, who deceives and humiliates him. Conflicting feelings of love and hate tear him apart, so a Taoist gives him a magic mirror that can heal him, provided he doesn't look into it. But of course he looks inside. Xi-Feng sees it. His soul sinks in the mirror and he is led away to die in iron chains. Not all Buddhists think that way about romantic and passionate love, but the moral of the story is that such affections provoke tragedy and, like magic mirrors, should be avoided. We go out of ourselves through love. Finally, let's take a positive look at the whole. The French philosopher Simone de Beauvoir believed that love is the desire to complement one another and that it gives our lives meaning. However, it was less about why we love, but more about how we can love better. For them, the problem with traditional romantic love was that it can be so engaging that we tend to make it our purpose in life. However, the dependence on the other to justify one's own existence very easily leads to boredom and power games. In order not to fall into this trap, de Beauvoir suggested authentic love, which is more like a great friendship. The lovers support each other to find themselves, to go out of themselves, and to enrich life and the world together. We may not know why we fall in love, but we can be sure that it will be a roller coaster ride of emotions. Love is scary and exhilarating. It makes us suffer, it makes us float. Maybe we will lose each other. Maybe we will find each other. Maybe it's heartbreaking, or maybe it's the best thing that happens to us in life. Do you take the risk to find out?