Why is it important to make money

Friendship and money: "Your lust for money pisses me off"


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Laura: I don't remember it like that at all. More like complaining about my first job that I didn't want to be exploited. I still see it that way. For me, making money also has something to do with being valued. I think it's stupid to let yourself be exploited. And I think you let yourself be exploited.

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Stefanie: You never told me that until our argument. It escalated when we wanted to go to a mutual friend's birthday. We met at my place and still had to think of a present. I suggested we give her a weekend at a spa for free. That was too expensive for you. Above all, that upset me so much because you afford yourself every luxury. This huge apartment, a dishwasher, always the latest iPhone. And then 50 euros was too much for you for a present.

Laura: You screamed in my face: Your lust for money pisses me off. I was totally speechless.

Stefanie: I was immediately sorry that it blew out of me like that. I couldn't talk to anyone about it, so it had kind of pent up. I would much rather have addressed it in a respectful tone. We couldn't talk anymore that evening. Not until a few weeks later.

Laura: Yes, it is important to me to earn a lot of money. I want to be able to afford something and that's what I work for. I don't find anything wrong with that at all. It is important to me to have a home in my free time in which I feel comfortable, not to waste my time doing the dishes or constantly having to replace my broken cell phone. But I wouldn't call that money lust, but independence. The way you do one unpaid internship after another, that would bother me. I don't want to be on my parents' pocket.

Stefanie: I wish I could be more independent. I realize that this is a great luxury. My parents support me and that's the only way I can do what I want to do. But it is important to me and I believe that it will create greater value in the long term.

Laura: Well, I find that much more selfish than worrying about being able to take care of yourself.

Stefanie: I can now understand this argument well. But it just seemed to me as if you were only interested in more, more, more. In retrospect, I'm really happy that it blew out of me like that. I think we might otherwise have secretly drifted apart quietly.

Laura: At first I was angry and thought: I don't have to be friends with this stupid hippie anyway. I thought you just won't allow me to do it. Or are you jealous. It wasn't that easy for me. Now I can admit that it hurt me a lot.

Stefanie: I've thought a lot about our friendship, but also about whether it could be completely normal for you to drift apart with some friends. But at the same time I didn't want to be someone who argues over money matters. I especially don't want to give money so much importance and then it does have such an influence.

Laura: I think that's the difference. In the end, money stresses you a lot more than me.

Stefanie: That's not true, I really don't pay any attention to my money, even if someone owes me something. But I still have to learn that it is not my place to tell others how important money is to them.