What does your grandparents' house look like

When grandparents are no longer allowed to see their grandchildren

Grandparents and grandchildren often have special relationships. Intimate, loving, relaxed at the same time. However, the Corona crisis demands that people refrain from meeting their beloved grandchildren because older people are among the group most at risk from the virus.

This is difficult for many grandmas and grandpas. Your sons and daughters often have to do some persuasion. For example in the Butz family. "We wouldn't be so extremely anxious now. But the way it has developed in the last few weeks, this is obviously the right strategy," says Martin Butz.

"The way it turned out, that's the right strategy."

Martin Butz (73)

The 73-year-old and his wife Marlis live in Flein, just 200 meters from two of their four grandchildren. Lena (10) and Lennart (8) "usually come to eat once a week". Vincent (8) and Tilda (6) from Heilbronn also visit grandma and grandpa regularly. But his son, says Martin Butz, viewed it critically: "He wanted to break off contact to protect us." Because the daughter-in-law also came into contact with many children as a teacher, they haven't met for two weeks.

The family celebration for Marlis Butz's 72nd birthday has to be canceled: "It already hurts a bit. The grandchildren were part of our daily life. We enjoyed that very much," regrets Butz, but consoles himself with the knowledge: "God-be -Thanks, everyone is healthy. "

His sister-in-law Karin Butz (76) and her husband Hans-Peter (80) in Obersulm-Weiler feel the same way: "We are only at home now. The son has strictly forbidden us to interact with the grandchildren." The three grandchildren between the ages of twelve and 17 live in Öhringen, and contact was not regular anyway. But everyone would have come to celebrate their sister-in-law or their own birthday in April. "But we belong to the risk group", Karin Butz also sees the need to stop meetings.

"I am afraid that I will not notice it, and that I will transfer it to my grandparents."

Amelie (16)

Hans and Wera Link, 76 and 75 years old, don't think it's that radical. Three of her four grandchildren live like her in Leingarten. "We'll see each other at a distance," says Hans Link, describing the compromise. For example, they put the bread that they brought with them from a special baker for the whole family on the daughter's terrace instead of carrying it inside. "That is terrible", thinks Wera Link: "I am a communicative person and don't like it at all when you are no longer allowed to greet people and hug them."

"The situation is depressing," says Hans Link of the overall situation. He is a little afraid of infection, "precisely because we are a risk group". After an initial refusal, the links now want to accept his children's offer to get food for them "because the distances in the trade are not being kept".

Her granddaughter Amelie finds the situation depressing: "I am a little afraid that I will have it and not notice it, but that I will transfer it to my grandparents," says the 16-year-old.

Other social contacts are largely restricted

However, it is not possible to avoid contact everywhere. Be it because the families live in the same house, be it because you have to rely on the support of your grandparents. For example, Monique Stark's children from Abstatt, eight and four years old, are always with their grandmother (60) in Nordheim on Saturdays, while she and her husband have to work. The family has decided to remain largely to themselves and otherwise not to go with people.

And with Pascal Abraham in Oberstenfeld, the grandmother (67) lives in the same house. "We eat together every evening and don't cut off contact," says Abraham: "My mother doesn't count herself in the risk group."


Susanne Schwarzbürger

Author

Susanne Schwarzbürger has been an editor at Heilbronner Voice since 2000. After many years in the children / youth / family team, she is now primarily responsible for the southern Kraichgau and educational topics in the regional editorial team.